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BEAUTY AND THE BEASTS

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When I was growing up, just like any girl I was told that every boy is a potential rapist. So keep a safe distance to protect yourself from potential rapist. Now what is the safe distance nobody knows but it is told to almost every girl in growing age. We just assume that our boys are safe and they do not need any such warning . I lived this perception for a long time although it clashed with my observations all the time. And then at middle of the life I was stuck with the potential rapists. Destiny brought me to the men’s right movement, here I was surrounded by alleged rapists, dowry seekers and violent men.Those who firmly believed that men can never be good ,raised eye brows of me working with THOSE KIND OF men. I was warned again and again that keep a safe distance may be the allegations are right. I was asked how do you judge or analyze whether a man is right or wrong. This time I did not remain quiet I told them firmly,“I have stopped judging them “.And when you stop judgi

10 SIGNS OF BECOMING A MEN’s RIGHTS ACTIVIST

Ever wondered how and why your world has become upside down? Why you think different from the world around you? Why that female relative annoys you so much when she complains about everything in her life? Analyze yourself by these ten points - 1.     DUNIYA PAGAL HAI YA FIR MAIN DIWANA (Either world has gone crazy or is it only me) – Whole world is singing the women oppression thing. When you see around you see advertisements, songs, schemes, attitudes, gestures making you believe that women are oppressed from ages. But it does not bother you, you know the reality and whenever you encounter such things you smile and nod. Then at some moment you feel, “what is wrong with you, may be whole world has gone crazy or maybe it is you only“. And you realize actually world has gone mad with the word WOMAN. 2.     IT IS HARD TO KEEP QUIET – You get many messages on watsapp and social media about how great women are and why we should always respect women. You want to ignore them but th

WALK A MILE IN HIS SHOES

It was that time of the month when the thought of becoming man comes to the mind frequently. I was annoyed that in these periods I have to attend the meeting, “ OH God, make me man for a day at least ”, I murmured. God was in a good mood that day so the wish of an oppressed woman from ages was granted. To my surprise I was turned into the privileged married man. I was very happy that now I do not have to think about taking excuse in between the meeting to change pads or any awkward situation. I came out of my apartment and thought of taking an auto rickshaw to reach metro station. I was waiting for an auto when I saw this cute little ten year old girl coming with her mother. I smiled at her and pulled her cheeks which I used to do every day. Her mother gave a weird look as if I did something grossly wrong. I realized I am a man today and I am not supposed to touch any girl. She again gave me an angry look which clearly said,” Don’t you dare touch my little girl again “. “Well I

ABUSIVE WOMEN – world loves them

Disclaimer : This article is written on my first hand experiences and it does not says pamper me or respect me . The other day there was this failed actress making hue and cry about ,”  NICE BOOBS  “ comment on her profile picture . Although there was nothing nice still she thought she can create drama to gain something out of the women pampering wave going on worldwide. Women pampering is always equal to male bashing. It was necessary to stop the male bashing so I reacted. To my surprise her male protectors came up with all the abuses. They were protecting one woman with, “ RESPECT WOMEN“ slogan and comfortably disrespecting another . This was not happening for the first time, so I did my job without being bothered by the abuses. But it forced me to think why men love the abusive drama queens? They will ignore the simple women with zero drama but will pamper the abusive drama queens. I have seen this throughout my life , say a good thing in a very simple way no man will give

MANU MEETS CONFIDARE

It was a cloudy morning when I got a panic stricken call from a man. He said he is an NRI Doctor belonging to Delhi. I felt the voice is familiar, he said he is so stressed that he took sleeping pills in London so his family called him back to Delhi. I calmed him down and asked him to tell me the whole story in detail. He said he wants to meet me , I gave him Confidare office address and rushed to the office. I was sitting on the office chair when he entered. I felt I have seen him somewhere, he was tensed , lost and depressed.  It was still cloudy and a bit dark so I switched on the tube light and saw the man curiously,“Oh he is Doctor Manoj Sharma of the movie Tanu weds Manu. “ I thought and I was surprised to see him at our office, I shook hands with him and said in excitement, “Hey how you been it is so nice to see you here " And then I thought I should not have said that . People do not come to us in happy times and why to be happy if someone is here. He seemed to be

Happy First Anniversary to CONFIDARE Delhi

A year back it was an impossible task. It was a dream which I was chasing like a dreamer for almost two years. I was serving as a volunteer in the men’s rights movement;I did whatever I was told to do. I followed all the instructions like a good student. Gradually I realized that park meetings are useless and movement needs structures. To my delight I came to know that a structure was already made by the pioneers of movement in Bangalore. I liked the idea of CONFIDARE , a community center for men which is open for two days in a week where men can sit and discuss about their problems and learn to fight back. But it was still a distant dream and I was living with the dream. In Delhi I was alone with this dream as those I thought will come and support me, left me when I chose Confidare. The mere mention of CONFIDARE raised eyebrows and overnight I became nobody in the existing Delhi team. I thought of starting it alone but I got two more friends (Rohit Girdhar and Nishant Sharma) so

Are media debates really useful?

I was sitting at the guest room of DD news with three feminists – a prominent feminist, a male feminist and one more woman. They lost the debate to me on camera so they were insulting me off camera. On camera too they tried same. I was wondering about this male feminist who was so much in support of women but was actually making fun of me, a Woman! I returned with moist eyes, this did not happen for the first time; I had similar experiences at different media channels. Those who go to the media and represent men’s rights must have noticed that there is only one pro men person and others are feminists. Generally media chooses a weak pro men debater so that they can make fun of him/her. If there is some strong pro men debater they either do not allow him/her to speak or just mute the mike. Basically they do not want to talk pro men or about men’s rights,they invite us to add fun element to the show. I had a tough time when a retired judge and a famous feminist started laughing