koshish jaari hai !

It is your 34 Th birthday and you are not with us . You were around  two years nine months younger to me so I don’t remember your birth. But as I was told your were born on a cold night of 30 Th December 1980 ,9.25 p.m. at Chandigarh . I was told I was jealous of you when you were born as everyone started giving you attention . But I started adoring you after some time . I was a very quiet , shy child while you were social , loud and naughty .  I remember you were fond of celebrating your birthdays and we used to make special arrangements for you. In childhood I remember you to be ill on almost all your birthdays . Mummy used to spend nights awake with you giving you medicines , steam etc . Sometimes you did not open eyes for two days , bronchitis was a problem for you . But you were a happy child enjoying every moment of life  and making everyone laugh. I was never excited about my birthday but for you we used to do something special every year till I got married. You were a f

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPCMUj2XgVc  It was a call from Doordarshan(Government channel) and they wanted to do a debate on men and safety. I do not expect media to do a program on men and their safety so I thought let it be through women only . Going to Doordarshan is like home coming as I left Akashwani(All India Radio) some seven years back .  It was expected that I will be the only one talking pro- men during debate. I knew it other speakers will be feminists . It was cold day when I reached Doordarshan  . I was sitting in the guest room waiting for others to come . After a few minutes entered kiran Bedi , I stood up and said Namaste , she gave a smile in response. If I say I was not nervous it will be a lie, there is background behind my nervousness.      Some 18 years back when I was a teenager girl Kiran Bedi used to be role model of almost all girls. Every father wanted his daughter to be Kiran Bedi . There were couple of Miss World and Miss universe but i

World around you is teaching “respect women”  and it has gone to the extent that men are considered criminals everywhere .This has given an imbalance in the society and created the unfortunate gender war , we are all part of the gender war unconsciously . In this scenario how will you teach your daughters to respect men or trust them . Here are some of the ways to teach them : 1.        EQUALITY  IS AN OXYMORON  – Men and women are equal is the biggest lie we are told , reality is men and women are differently equal . They compliment each other in the inequalities . So teach your daughter to accept the inequalities and respect them . 2.        MY BODY , MY RESPONSIBILITY – The feminist wave around us is teaching girls “My body My choice”  but if it is not only their choice it is their responsibility too . You have to teach your little girls to wear clothes and make -up responsibly . You have to teach your daughters “when you are in Rome do as Romans do .” So wear clothes k

After three years of activism I don’t have a right to talk like a victim . In past three years I have counseled and coached so many men about how to be strong when life is going out of control . So it is not expected of me to be a weak person . But as festivities are around this thought is coming in my mind again and again that who's festivity it is ? I will not go into religious background behind the festivals , life is tough and monotonous so  the festivals were created to break that monotony . What if breaking the monotony becomes torment for people ?                                  There are people around me who are fighting a war deep inside and I can see how these festivals are a big torture for them . But how can be a festival torturous ? I was talking to this fellow last night when he suddenly asked ,"do you feel depressed when festivals are around" ,my instant reply was, “yes” .It is indeed depressing for a fellow whose wife left him without any reason and n

I remember the two Amity law students coming to our meetings and just standing quietly in a corner. I connected with them and they told me they want to understand and work upon the area of men’s right. These two students connected me to Mokshda Pertaub Bhushan a dynamic lady who is Asstt professor in Amity Law School. Mokshda is definitely a feminist but as I jokingly tell her because she is mother of three sons she knows what is happening around her in the name “Feminism”. We as a team thought of doing a discussion in the changing scenario. When I first went to Amity for a discussion I represented the “Forgotten women” of India the mother and sister part, also a little bit of men’s right. I was delighted to see students as well as teachers agreed on every point I raised. In April 2014, I joined Confidare,an education company focusing on men’s welfare as a Research Analyst. Our team in Confidare was always keen in doing research and taking the viewpoint of the young generations

                                Respected madam,                              > > विषय : मु्झे न्याय चाहिए तथा माँ द्वारा दर्ज पर सख्त कार्रवाई तथा भाई की हत्या का निष्पक्ष जांच . > 1). भाभीद्वारा झूठे 498A केस   के तहत पुरा परिवार मॊत के मुँह मे। > 2) छोटे भाई बलवन्त कुमार की arresting   को। > 3). बडे भाई यशवन्त कुमार की संदेहास्पद मोत ( हत्या ) > 4). माँ द्वारा    दर्ज FIR पर कोई कार्रवाई नहीँ > 5) बिस्तर पर पड़ी बीमार माँ को घसीटकर को जेल ले जाया गया। > 6).  परीक्षा    भवन से परीक्षा लिखने के दॊरान   पुलिस द्वारा मेरी गिरफ्तारी > 7). एकमात्र     जीवित भाई का मानसिक संतुलन खोना > 8). मीरा राय तथा उसके मायकेवालो द्वारा हमेँ बर्बाद तथा जान से मारने की धमकियाँ अनेको बार देना > महाशय , > मेँ भारती राय पुत्री स्व . संभू नाथ राय माँ विधवा अपने बेटे की मोत के गम मेँ डूबी लाचार बीमार जो बुढापे मेँ जेल की एक महीने की सजा काट कर आई