I was sitting in the court for a hearing and the lawyer was giving this argument that the woman who is asking for money never took any responsibility of a wife, in fact, she lived hardly two months with the husband . Judge listened to the argument carefully and said,” But technically she is a wife and a wife is eligible to ask for money from husband .” The court was adjourned until next date.
After that, I heard this argument again and again in many other cases, “She is technically a wife so she has right over husband’s money .”
What Makes Them A Technical Wife
These women marry a man as per ritual , wear bangles ,sindoor or mangal sutras ,take pledges. They have sex with the man or even if they do not have does not matter . A marriage is consummated or not is a very complex issue. And they are abusive, after getting abused whole day how will a man feel like touching his woman . They are not interested in any household chores. If you question them, the reply would be I am not a maid . They are manufactured by the factory of Feminism which taught them doing household chores makes you a maid . They live the life on their own terms , if those terms violate terms of husband’s life , it does not matter to them . They love their parental home more than matrimonial home which is a normal feeling .But they love their parental home so much that they ill treat their husbands as well as his relatives . They are never part of the husband’s sorrows and happiness . They never bothered about his good being , they do not even care whether he is dead or alive . Love is a supreme emotion so leave love they never respected their husbands. They leave him without any reason and falsely accuse him of violence and dowry demands . They are not even mother, they only give birth to babies but never take care of them . Feeding the baby means losing your figure , another thing which Feminism told them . I have seen fathers taking care of babies more than such mothers. Or the more easy thing is, not allowing a father to meet the child and the easiest thing is to abort the baby .They love to torture both father and child.
If you see closely they are neither mother nor wife, but lawmakers and law book says technically they are wife . It says whether you take care of the husband or not you have right over his money . You can extort him by using your own child . Husband is bad but his money is good , this is how a technical wife thinks .
Who Are We ?
Believe it or not, we still exist , we the endangered species , we are not so technical wife . This question comes in my mind often that who are we -
- We cook for our husbands ,
- We do the household chores ,
- We ask them about their good being ,
- We call his relatives and share their joy ,
- We keep fasts for their long lives ,
- We love them unconditionally
- We are sad in their sadness and happy in their happiness
- We keep our husbands before us ,
We are not empowered ones we earn our money ,many of us share the financial burden too . We keep a balance between matrimonial house and parental house . We take responsibilities and we discuss instead of arguing. We do not follow Vidya Balan , we do not leave husband’s house , in fact, we make it a HOME . We know when two people from different backgrounds live together there will problems so we work on the problems .We lose the charm , the figure , the beauty but we love to see our men smiling . We are women who love their men and everything associated with them .
These technical wives make us wonder why are we doing it ? Why are we still following the old school ideas of being a wife ? We have an easy way of becoming wife why to follow the hard path ? Time has come when the Law books should define us . Tell us clearly whether to do all this or not . If being a technical wife is enough why to love and care ? Lawmakers should understand the dilemma of not so technical wives . These technical wives make us feel like a loser , they call us slaves of patriarchy . We do not know what patriarchy is because we have seen our men working day and night to make our lives comfortable . We have seen our men sacrificing their pleasures for us , we have seen our men taking care of our kids after a long tiring day so that we can relax . And we have seen men dying to protect us if this is Patriarchy it is indeed bad for MEN .
Dear Lawmakers define us , we fear to lose identity in this race of empowerment . Please mention it in curriculum clearly that caring for a man makes us his slave . It will help us to teach our daughters not to be a slave . If it is defined sonorously it will be easy to understand that marriage is just a joke . It is not about commitment , love, and understanding it is about just being a technical wife . It is an insult to women like us who work tirelessly to build up relationships .
Dear lawmakers , our textbooks should mention that our grandmothers and mothers were stupid losers who happily lived and died for the family . It will be easy for us to grasp the technical wives when our son or brother gets one and it will be easy for them too . Because right now they have this wrong image of wife presented before them . They are confused what to do with this technical wife – they cannot ask her to cook , take care of his parents , take care of their own kids or even to have sex because it can be termed rape . Tomorrow if something happens to the son this technical wife will get benefits, not the mother .
The situation is ambiguous because and needs clarity . One of us is not the wife as per law ,please lawmakers define us .